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The Happy Doc


Jul 30, 2017

And then one day I shook my fist to the heavens and demanded my life. This isn't my life, I'm not going to live like this anymore, I demand my life. And then within 24 hours my whole life changed, depression was gone, everything just kick started again in a very different way.

Introduction

Hello team Happy Doc! We have another amazing episode for this week featuring the very wise and intuitive Dr. Nathalie Martinek. Before we begin with the introduction, I start by saying that she is an individual who is full of great wisdom, and provides practical tips that you can apply today to improve your life. Within this episode we want you to take a few moments to pause the conversation so that YOU can reflect on your life and how you might better tackle tomorrow. Please take advantage of these opportunities as you listen to the audio.

Bio

Our guest received her PhD in Developmental Biology from the University of Toronto followed by Postdoctoral studies in cancer research at the Peter MacCallum Cancer Centre. As we discuss in this episode, Nathalie quickly realized that her bench side studies did not suit the life she ultimately wanted to live. She realized that her intuitive capabilities of human connection were better suited to helping people directly, so she underwent further personal and professional development. Her training includes areas such as health communication, group facilitation, mediation/dispute resolution & relationship healing, and meditation and spiritual training as an initiate at Shanti Mission. Nathalie is a public speaker and group facilitator and delivers talks and training in the healthcare, early childhood education and corporate sectors on self-care, meditation, burnout prevention, compassion fatigue, effective communication and courageous conversations. She is also an independent researcher developing a research program to transforms the current practice of medicine to prevent practitioner harm & compassion fatigue and to align practice with patient values, practitioner values, patient-centred care and promote healing. She is currently writing a book covering her research findings and will be training facilitators of her training programs in 2017. Nathalie mentors people to navigate the complexities of life, relationships, practice and existence through consciousness-expanding and healing techniques. She bridges scientific theory with spiritual practices to create enriching, transformative learning and healing experiences in a compassionate, grounded and light-hearted way. She practices at The Urban Alchemist located in North Carlton, Victoria, Australia as well as online as an Ignite Your Spirit Therapist, spiritual mentor and communication coach. She also runs workshops that teach participants about their multidimensional nature and techniques that address the diverse influences on quality of life, relationships and wellness. Please learn from Dr. Nathalie and check out her Facebook page at  https://www.facebook.com/DrNathalieMartinek/ Please also be on the lookout for her podcast coming out around September! Listen to the audio to and learn more from Dr. Nathalie! *** Join The Happy Doc Team! Link in to the social media, subscribe to the podcast, and join the e-mail list on the sidebar! Facebook       Instagram      Twitter

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Sample of the conversation:

Recognizing transitions and the need for support

Note: text has been lightly edited for ease of understanding, no alteration of meaning has taken place. I needed to understand what happens when we go through periods of life of transition. Because we go from old us to the new us all the time when we wake up in the morning; It's like we hit the reset button and there's new opportunity that can happen in that day that is completely separate from what happened yesterday. But, if we never sever or distinguish between yesterday and today as different (and yesterday doesn't have to flow into today)... nothing ever changes. So having gone through a three to four-week period of depression and of darkness was an opportunity to realize  what happens when we are suspended in that transition, in that place between old and the new way, and that space between... And there's so much richness that still keeps coming up for me, especially when I work with people and see what happens to people when they're going through transitions. They don't understand they're in the transition, and they need patience when they are transitioning from old you to new you.  And they also need to understand what support  to have in place to help with that transitionbecause when you don't have it you get stuck and you stay stuck.

Tip on seizing the day: Centering, Visualization, and Reflection

Part of my daily practice is meditation and depending on how organized I am it could be an hour or it could be five minutes, it could be a deep connection while I'm taking a shower, (before I'm getting the kids up and out of the house), as long as I get that opportunity to center myself.  [I also] visualize the day as I'd like to see it and I set my own intention of what I want to experience in the day. That's kind of how we reset because it didn't matter what happened yesterday or last week or last month if I take today and decide, this is how I want it to be, and these are some of the outcomes I'd like to experience... so those are things I put in in my morning practice and intention and by doing that it creates a focus for me throughout the day... then at the end of the day I have to reflect on how that went. Otherwise I'm not resetting so it's about looking to start your day, and then having a clear end of your day as well. Summary:  In the morning it's meditation (centering), and then intention (where do want to see this day going), and the end of the day having the reflective process on how successful you were with that intention. Imposter Syndrome The way I explain it is when you are going through a period of life where you feel like a fraud. It's part of your learning curve where your learning something new, you don't know it yet, and you're not realized in that skill ... or you are applying it but suddenly you discover someone who's really effective in that skill and you compare yourself to that person. Or you're preparing a course to teach others a method, or a way of thinking about a process of yours, and what's coming up are a lot of doubts and fears, and you know that you're actually a fraud, that you're an imposter, and you're not who you say you are. So it's part of the learning curve, becoming realized or embodied in a particular quality or skill, and it's a normal part of the process. But, it also can become something that people use against themselves which isn't really helpful. It's also opportunity to actually check in: "Well maybe what if I an imposter and what if I don't actually have the skills and abilities that I claim I do; I think I do but I'm not embodied in it. I can just easily talk about it and teach people through verbal communication, but I'm not transferring or transmitting the skills to another because I'm not embodying it". ...if somehow what you're doing isn't aligned with your own inner moral code or your inner ethical standards, you're going to feel uneasy about what you're doing, or you might be duping people and you might actually be an imposter. So, I talked about reframing it as as a way of checking in with yourself [asking], "do I really have the skills to be doing this, what do I need to put in place to help me grow in this area". So that's what it's about. For more of the conversation, listen to the audio!!!